As you will know if you are a regular reader of this blog, I am (rather unsurprisingly) a big fan of online dating. There are plenty of reasons why, which I will get into shortly.
However, I am not blind to the potential pitfalls. Online dating, like anything else in life, is not perfect. There are things you should be aware of, and things to look out for. Although I believe that online dating isa hugely beneficial tool for any singleton looking for love, in this (and my next) post I want to take a look at both sides of the coin.
Let's get the good stuff out of the way first. Among the pros of online dating are speed, convenience, and numbers. It would be fair to say that none of those sound particularly romantic, but then dating is a bit of a mechanical process, even at the best of times.
This is really only a pro of online dating if you do it 'correctly'. By that I mean one can waste a lot of time on dating sites without achieving a lot. On the other hand, if you are proactive in your online dating efforts, you can date a lot of potential matches in a short space of time. If you are focused on communicating relatively briefly with a view to having that first date sooner rather than later, online dating can be a rather efficient process.
As we leave the friendly confines of high school and university, we soon realize that life's responsibilities take up a significant amount of time. Family, work and hobbies are just a few of the ways in which our time gets eaten up. In essence, the time we used to spend on our education gets taken up by our work commitments.
Instead of socializing at school, we now socialize at the office. The main difference being that most people in the office are not young and single. The beauty of online dating is that the doors are open all day and all night. You can literally send messages at 2:00 a.m. in the morning with your pajamas on or 2:00 p.m. in the afternoon while taking a break at work. Either way, the message will get to the intended recipient.
These days we live in a world of convenience; there's no point in denying it. And let's be honest — who wouldn't take at least a little pleasure in surfing for prospective matches from the comfort of their own home?
'Traditional' dating is a tough gig — you've got to put yourself out there.You've either got to rely on being introduced to potential matches through friends of friends, or work, or you've got to start introducing yourself to complete strangers in the hope of getting a date.
That's all well and good (it has worked for centuries after all), but online dating gives you another option — an option of convenience.
Not only is online dating quick and easy, you've also got an enormous pool of potential matches to choose from. The likes of Match and eHarmony have a truly astonishing number of members, and unless you live in a remote location, you are unlikely to run out of people to date.
Whilst you may have to travel, the person you are looking for may already be logged in and waiting. All you have to do is find them.
Avoids the Drunken Bar Scene
For most people, the bar is a fun place where you get a chance to hang out with a few friends, socialize, have a couple of drinks and let loose.
However, heading to the bar hoping that you're going to meet your next relationship partner, is not the best strategy. There are too many variables in a bar environment including alcohol, loud music, muted lights, friends, etc.
Yes, you can be attracted to someone's physical characteristics when you meet in a bar however with all the other obstacles in the way, finding your dream partner in that environment really means you have the odds stacked against you.
Next I'll delve in to the negatives of online dating — you can read about that here.