July 212017
online dating

Alright — so online dating seems like a pretty good gig if you look at the pros I listed in this article. But as I said before, it's far from perfect. Let's consider the cons.

Matching Algorithms Don't Work

A report produced by researchers at Northwestern University and published in Psychological Science in the Public Interest purports that the matching algorithms often touted by online dating sites are ineffective at best:

There is no compelling evidence that any online dating matching algorithm actually works. If dating sites want to claim that their matching algorithm is scientifically valid, they need to adhere to the standards of science, which is something they have uniformly failed to do.

In fact, our report concludes that it is unlikely that their algorithms can work, even in principle, given the limitations of the sorts of matching procedures that these sites use.

I tend to agree with the report's findings — I've never been a fan of matching algorithms. I personally prefer to have the option of searching through profiles to find people that I think I may like.

You Just Don't Know Until You Meet Them

This for me is the biggest issue with online dating — you cannot tell if you are going to click with someone until you meet them in person. You could get along with someone like a house on fire, right up until you meet for that first date; where for whatever reason, it just doesn't work out.

Online cannot beat real life, and never will. That is why I always advocate that you get to that first dateas soon as possible — there is no point spending weeks talking to someone who may simply not be right for you.

There Are Dangers

There are dangers inherent in the world of online dating, and you may have even heard the occasional horror story. It is true that there are unscrupulous (or worse) characters out there, looking to take advantage of the online dating system.

There are however two issues in considering this a 'con' of online dating. For the most part, these dangers can be avoided if you exercise common sense. The world as a whole is a dangerous place — not just the world of online dating. Ultimately it is up to you to decide whether or not you feel that online dating is worthwhile. You know that I do, but you could be different. I will however leave you with one simple question – what have you got to lose by giving it a go?